I am truly hoping that I do not get too long winded in this letter. I came into it with a passion for the idea but no simple way to express the thoughts. Therefore I am just winging it, with hopes that my fingers will somehow keep up with my mind. For the record, It is not likely, I don't type that fast. I also hope that I do not put my foot in my mouth by saying too much. Todays topic is sex, to include preference of things like toys, dick size and shape, length of time, what climax looks like. I would like to dive deep into the mind of likes and dislikes. Your willingness to explore and what those limits might look like. The idea of anal sex, anal beads and the such. 

 

You have no problems pointing out that we are all different and I will be the first to concur with that statement. Our interests range as individual humans. Many times afraid of the unknown we are hesitant to try things that do not quite fit into what we are taught or think of as normal. I have spent years contemplating the barriers that hinder humans from developing. Many times it is as simple as access.

 

What would you call good sex? More so how would you describe a good sexual encourter. What things do you consider? For some the act of sex starts long before a touch or any article of clothing is removed. I fall into this category. Being sapiosexual I am first intrigued by the mental, and can be dissuaded in action if my mind has not first been stimulated. The more you fuck my mind the more likely I am to bang your back out.
 

For some the pregame or foreplay is the key. Bubble baths and massage relaxes the mind and body allowing it to receive its lover with ease and comfort. Arousal by touch is a very interesting concept, I hear some bodies are so sensitive to touch, when in the right headspace they can climax from the suckle of tipples. Of course different strokes for different folks. 

 

So let me be more specific. I would like to know more about what gets you off. 

Do you like to masterbate? Do you own toys, if so what types? How often do you climax from penis penetration alone? Or do you need or like clitoris stimulation more? Do you care for tongues in your ear? Please be specific, using inches in your opinion what is a small dick size length and width, what would you consider big. And what is the largest you’ve had a personal encounter with? 

 

A few studies say that the average length of time for a man during intercourse is roughly 6 minutes. From your personal knowledge and experiences, how true is that statement? If you could have your way how long would each sexual episode last. Please be specific, if it is broken down into dinner and movie, foreplay, intercourse, cuddling, etc? 

 

Do you prefer a man taking time, slow grinding, or do you like pounding with an attempt to dislocate a disc in your back? Do you have a position you prefer, one that makes it feel good or one that makes you cum fast? 

 

Are you a follower in the bedroom or a leader? Let me ask that another way. Are you vocal in the bedroom, willing to ask for what you want and like or do you shut up and take what he wants to give you. Are you a shallower? Yes I am referring to when you perform fellatio and the climax happens as a result of your fine work? 

 

By chance do you know or remember the early 90s female rap group Salt and Pepper? They had a song called “Lets talk about Sex”. As you see I do not mind talking about sex, in fact I like to talk about it, maybe not as much as I like to talk to about politics and religion but it is close. Now me knowing you, and realizing I don't know anything about you. But I would bet you are saying why in the fuck is he asking all these questions. What I have learned through reading, studying, research, podcast, documentaries, movies etc. People do not talk about sex. The few that do are more satisfied and happier with their sex life and mate. Studies show that women who do not talk about what they like or dont like are more likely to be less satisfied with their sex life and have less sex because of it. One theory said that if you (the female) are unable or unwilling to identify and verbalize your desires, how in the hell is the man supposed to know what he is doing is not working or is unenjoyable. A man that knows how to fine tone his sexual approch with his mate is more likely to be successful.  

 

I think we might have grazed over the topic of anal sex before. But I don't remember the details. 

Have you ever allowed anal penitartion? Do you or did you like it? If you have not, is it something you would entertain trying?

 

What are your limitations? That is really a trick question. I can only hope that you would never limit yourself. But I am sure you have some never will I evers. Tell me what is on that list? 

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